Look for the good and praise it.
Good morning! I really enjoyed stumbling across
this quote, especially given the author. For those
who don't know, Joanne is the author of the Harry
Potter series. She is an inspiration and success
story, who chose to
Have you ever noticed the natural human tendency
to put ourselves in the "middle" or everything
as a source or cause? For example, when someone
doesn't return a phone call, our thoughts often
turn to, "Did I upset her?" or "Maybe she
doesn't want to talk to me." Or if a co-worker
seems to be having an off-day we may wonder,
"Did I contribute?"
When we make the focus about "us" we can't focus
on another person in a healthy way. In these
situations it is best to turn from our own ego
and instead look at the situation or the person
directly. Perhaps a call wasn't returned because
a child became sick, or the person went into a
ditch in a snowstorm, or fell asleep while
watching TV. Perhaps, it has nothing to do with
us. Perhaps a co-worker learned of an
ill-relative, or had a fight with a spouse.
Usually it has nothing to do with us.
Your turn:
As you go throughout your day, watch for the
tendency to put yourself as a "cause" or
"reason." When you find yourself doing so,
remove the focus from yourself and instead ask
thoughtful and inquisitive questions about the
situation of concern. Remember that when we make
the focus about "us" we can't focus on another
person
in a healthy way.
Your affirmation:
I remain focused on the entire
situation versus focused on myself.
