Good morning! Have you ever noticed the natural human tendency to put ourselves in the "middle" or everything as a source or cause? For example, when someone doesn't return a phone call, our thoughts often turn to, "Did I upset her?" or "Maybe she doesn't want to talk to me." Or if a co-worker seems to be having an off-day we may wonder, "Did I contribute?"

When we make the focus about "us" we can't focus on another person in a healthy way. In these situations it is best to turn from our own ego and instead look at the situation or the person directly. Perhaps a call wasn't returned because a child became sick, or the person went into a ditch in a snowstorm, or fell asleep while watching TV. Perhaps, it has nothing to do with us. Perhaps a co-worker learned of an ill-relative, or had a fight with a spouse. Usually it has nothing to do with us.

Your turn:
As you go throughout your day, watch for the tendency to put yourself as a "cause" or "reason." When you find yourself doing so, remove the focus from yourself and instead ask thoughtful and inquisitive questions about the situation of concern. Remember that when we make the focus about "us" we can't focus on another person
in a healthy way.

Your affirmation:
I remain focused on the entire situation versus focused on myself.

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