"Treat people as if they were what they ought to be and
you help them become what they are capable of being."
~Johann
Wolfing von Goethe
Good
morning!
A lot of women have asked me: "How do I stay positive
and focused when everything seems to be falling apart or becoming
challenging?" Some of these women are battling unsupportive husbands or
family members. Other women are struggling with gossip and negativity.
Some women are fighting illness; others, depression. Other women are
plagued by so many "minor" issues that they have developed a "major"
weight on their shoulders.
I have been at that place, where choosing old patterns
and turning away from progress seemed easier than turning toward
challenging life to be the best it can be. Here are some of the tips
and tools I have used to stay positive, regardless of what is going on
in my life at the moment.
Let go of "fair": Sometimes when we
get down, it is because we don't feel things are going as they should,
or that we are getting the help we deserve. We can easily focus on the
injustice of the situation or what is wrong with people or the
situation around us. Focusing on the external won't help you
internally. Instead, focus on what you can control and how you can
positively influence others. Remember that a lot can happen in a day: Just because
this moment isn't ideal, doesn't mean the next moment can't be. Instead
of focusing on what isn't working, be open to the idea that something
great can happen today.
Count your blessings: When our
surroundings or situation gets us down, it is easy to count the many
things that are wrong with our life. Switch perspectives by counting
your blessings. Like attracts like. Count how many things are wrong
with your life and surely the list will multiply. Count the many things
that are positive in your life and they will multiply instead.
Take a break: When we are tired
(either emotionally or physically,) staying positive can be an uphill
battle that leaves us feeling frustrated. Instead of forcing it, take a
break to recharge. Whether it is ten minutes or a day, find some space
to relax and nurture yourself. Enjoy lunch or coffee with a positive
friend. If you don't have a positive friend, have lunch or coffee with
a positive book or inspirational audio.
Get a cheerleader: A community of
like-minded, positive women can do wonders! Consider joining our
e-group for a wonderful community of positive women to turn to for
ideas and support.
I will survive: I love that song!
Create a CD of music that is uplifting to you and listen to it when the
weight of the world is on your shoulders. Recall other situations you
have overcome and realize that you have the power to overcome whatever
you are
currently facing.
Your Turn: Action is one of the
greatest remedies for frustration, fear, worry, or sadness. Choose one
area in your life that needs improvement right now and make improvement
a priority in your life. Make a list of seven action steps you can take
this week so that by next week the situation will be different.
Today's Affirmation: I choose how I
feel each day-and I choose to be positive.
