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Good morning! I am convinced that one of the most common places we practice reverse psychology is on our selves! In the past week, I was taking notes and here are some examples:
1. The smoker who wants to quit and details their quitting plan over a cigarette.
2. The woman who says she wants true love in her life, but stays in a relationship that is unfulfilling.
3. The professional who wants to reach the top, but then watches the clock and never works a minute over 40 hours.
4. The parent that wants better communication with their children, but doesn't have time to talk.
5. The artist who feels a need to express themselves, but never carves out time for creativity.
I am sure you can add some to this list!
How silly we are to live these contradictions in our life and then wonder, "what is bothering us" or "why do we feel unfulfilled?"
While I typically am more subtle in my views of the world, this is one area where subtleness is not my forte. The reason any of the above people would be "bothered" or "unfulfilled" is that they know exactly what they want, exactly what they need, and are not taking a single step toward making it a reality. In fact, they are directly contradicting it.
I am not saying that I have never done this in my own life - I have! In fact, I can think of an area or two now where my actions are directly in conflict with my desire. But what I don't do is fool myself. I don't make the problem someone else's or blame it on an unjust world or sum it up as bad timing. I know exactly what the problem is - I am not taking actions steps that align with my desires. And I know there is only one way to fix it. Either scrap the desire, (which is impossible with a true, core desire) or fix the action steps.
If we don't, we end up like today's quote - always traveling east while trying to get west or vice versa. Of course, I suppose if you travel east long enough, you'll eventually end up in the west - but what a bumpy, long and indirect trip -- and what a waste of time!
Your Turn:
Turn the spotlight on your life. What true desire do you have where your actions directly contradict the desire? Who do you blame? What do you "chalk" it up to? How long has this been happening in your life? Can you see the freedom that comes from owning the responsibility and righting your action? Decide whether you have outgrown the desire or if your action steps are wrong. Then adjust accordingly.
Your affirmation:
I own all of my problems. I own all of my solutions.
Challenge Life!
Brook Noel
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www.changeyourlifechallenge.com
And as always, don't forget to start your day with a heartfelt "Something great is going to happen today... I can't wait to see what it is!"
And when ending your day ask yourself, "What is one more thing I can do to make today matter?"
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