"Treat people as if they were what they ought
to be and you help them become what they are capable of being."
~Johann Wolfing
von Goethe
Good
morning!
A lot of women have asked me: "How do I stay
positive and focused when everything seems to be falling apart or
becoming challenging?" Some of these women are battling unsupportive
husbands or family members. Other women are struggling with gossip and
negativity. Some women are fighting illness; others, depression. Other
women are plagued by so many "minor" issues that they have developed a
"major" weight on their shoulders.
I have been at that place, where choosing
old patterns and turning away from progress seemed easier than turning
toward challenging life to be the best it can be. Here are some of the
tips and tools I have used to stay positive, regardless of what is
going on in my life at the moment.
Let go of "fair":
Sometimes when we get down, it is because we don't feel things are
going as they should, or that we are getting the help we deserve. We
can easily focus on the injustice of the situation or what is wrong
with people or the situation around us. Focusing on the external won't
help you internally. Instead, focus on what you can control and how you
can positively influence others. Remember
that a lot can happen in a day: Just because this moment isn't ideal,
doesn't mean the next moment can't be. Instead of focusing on what
isn't working, be open to the idea that something great can happen
today.
Count your blessings:
When our surroundings or situation gets us down, it is easy to count
the many things that are wrong with our life. Switch perspectives by
counting your blessings. Like attracts like. Count how many things are
wrong with your life and surely the list will multiply. Count the many
things that are positive in your life and they will multiply instead.
Take a break:
When we are tired (either emotionally or physically,) staying positive
can be an uphill battle that leaves us feeling frustrated. Instead of
forcing it, take a break to recharge. Whether it is ten minutes or a
day, find some space to relax and nurture yourself. Enjoy lunch or
coffee with a positive friend. If you don't have a positive friend,
have lunch or coffee with a positive book or inspirational audio.
Get a cheerleader:
A community of like-minded, positive women can do wonders! Consider
joining our e-group for a wonderful community of positive women to turn
to for ideas and support.
I will survive:
I love that song! Create a CD of music that is uplifting to you and
listen to it when the weight of the world is on your shoulders. Recall
other situations you have overcome and realize that you have the power
to overcome whatever you are
currently facing.
Your Turn:
Action is one of the greatest remedies for frustration, fear, worry, or
sadness. Choose one area in your life that needs improvement right now
and make improvement a priority in your life. Make a list of seven
action steps you can take this week so that by next week the situation
will be different.
Today's Affirmation:
I choose how I feel each day-and I choose to be positive.